Once you have mixed flour and water together (see quantities below) for four days, your starter should be frothy and/or bubbly. If it is not, just tuck it up and leave it for another 24 hours. After that if nothing at all is happening you can add a few grains of yeast to it and leave it for 24 hours but you should not have to do this. If nothing is happening naturally you have been using too much disinfectant and need to let your house get a bit more (normally) dirty!
To store your starter once it is frothy and bubbly, you put it in the fridge in a plastic container with an air tight lid or a kilner jar (the kind with the rubber sea). Do not use a regular jam jar because it may explode in a dangerous shower of glass shards. You will need a lot of space in your container especially for the first few days – the starter may continue to froth up. The worst that will happen in a kilner jar or a plastic tub is that it will leak through the seal and form a thick pool in your fridge!
You do not need to feed your starter slavishly every day. I once found some of my 1857 white wheat starter in the back of the fridge that had been there for about 5 years. I refreshed it and made bread. It took a couple of days to refresh and then it was as good as new. Remember, sourdough was used by people who did not have access to commercial yeast – cowboys rolled it up in their bed rolls, pioneering women transported it in the back of covered wagons, families living on the steppes of Russia managed to keep theirs alive in spite of harsh Siberian winters. You can freeze it, you can dry it, you can ignore it – it will always comes back. If it doesn’t, make another one.